I didn’t cry when I heard about Peaches Geldof. I felt numb. Then sick. Then I let my head try to think what each person who has lost her was feeling. That utter disbelief that someone so ‘there’ and ‘alive’ one minute has just been sucked out of your reality. And then I thought about how she lost her mum and how her children have lost her. How it was all so sick and out of the natural order of life. Then I just kept thinking about her poor husband and I thought more and more about that massive hole he will feel, the weight of the future, the disbelief that all he had is now in the past…and the big questions he’ll start asking himself like ‘how in the blazes do you manage to bring up your children and not let this huge life changing thing become their cross and alter their path just like it is altering you beyond recognition with every breath you take after ‘they’ve gone’…anyways, this post by Ben on his amazing blog lifeasawidower says it all so much better.